DJ and I are DVD fanatics. We have almost 300 DVD's and that is not counting the sets (Angel, Buffy, Friends) So last night while watching the 6th Season of Friends for the fourth time I began to think about women's undergarments. You know the one where Phoebe is dating this guy and they decided to switch undergarments and Joey found out, so he stole a pair of Rachel's panties and wore them...Well anyway. It made me think. Have I ever wore women's underwear? Hmmmm.
Well there was that one time for Halloween...uh no just panty hose then. I actually wore my underwear. I don't recall a time that I actually wore women's panties. Oh yeah that one time when I was dating the drag queen and he thought it would be fun for us both to go out in drag. I do recall wearing women's underwear then, I think. Hey Silver do you remember? Was I wearing women's panties?
You ask, is this leading somewhere? Not really, just thinking out loud, kind of. But it poses a question. Have you ever worn the underwear of the opposite sex? If so, why and how was it?
Oh come on share...
Monday, January 10, 2005
Sunday, January 09, 2005
Honesty, Always the Best Policy
I think God was testing me yesterday. I had several chances to lie, cheat and steal and yet I chose not to. let me explain...
First at work yesterday I was allowed to leave at 2:00 due to a birthday party scheduled at 3:00 for the owner's husband (DJ's grandfather) Now I get paid on salary, not hourly and by 12:00 noon I had only three customers all day and only three phone calls, one of which was the owner and the second from DJ. So I decided to leave at 1:00 instead of 2:00. I mean what's an hour right? Plus I had that damn patch on my eye and it was really hard to work and play on the internet. Well I started feeling guilty so instead I stayed until the allotted time and left at 2:00. By leaving at one I would have cheated my employer out of an hours wage. Not that it mattered I suppose as all I did most of the day was play on the internet anyway.
Then later in the evening DJ's mother invited us to go out to Buffalo Wild Wings for dinner with them. I love BWW, it's one of my favs. We had 2 $5.00 gift certificates from a prior visit that was not too pleasant and the manager complimented us with those gift certificates. We had also received a $50 gift card for BWW from DJ's grandmother that we still had $3.95 left to use, with the $20 we had in our pockets we felt assured that $33.95 would be sufficent. We ate and drank and then paid our bill with the $20.00 bill and all the certificates. The waiter returned and told us that our gift card and certificates were sufficent for our bill and returned our $20 bill. Now our bill was $28.45, the certificates only added up to $13.95. He then told us that we still had $1.95 on the gift card. How could this be? But oh well, free meal. Again guilt set in. We left the waiter the rest in a tip. He was good. And cute too.
Then we invited DJ's sister and a couple of her friends to our place to help finish up all the liquor from New Year's Eve (that's really sad...left over liquor) On the way we decided to stop by our favorite store (Target) and buy that new DVD game called "Scene It" to play with our guests for the evening. So we ran to the ATM at Target and I tried to put our card in. It would not go, but the screen asked..."Would you like another transaction?" I was like huh? I didn't even put my card in. I then realized that someone must have left their ATM in the machine and did not cancel their last action. Meaning if I hit the NO on the screen I could have withdrawn money from the card that was in the machine, saved us quite a few bucks and even been able to buy a new pair of jeans or something. I mean they were the dumbass to leave their ATM card still in the machine right? But, no I didn't. I hit the button to complete the prior asshole's transaction, found a piece of paper and pen and wrote a note to the bank with the card telling them that the user left the card in the machine and placed the card with the note on the bank counter next to the ATM. Went back to the ATM and used my own card and withdrew my own hard earned cash.
Then today my eldest son J1 called and said he was coming over to repay the $150 loan that I gave him at Christmas. I was like, "Son, that wasn't a loan that was your christmas gift. You don't have to repay me." Again, I know honest. I could have used that $150.
So I feel better for being honest, but now I want my damn reward. Come on, something good should come of my honesty don't you think? What goes around comes around, right?
I'm still waiting.
Hello God. Honest man here awaiting his reward.
Yep, still waiting.
Okay, never mind. Just keep track okay God? That's three for me.
First at work yesterday I was allowed to leave at 2:00 due to a birthday party scheduled at 3:00 for the owner's husband (DJ's grandfather) Now I get paid on salary, not hourly and by 12:00 noon I had only three customers all day and only three phone calls, one of which was the owner and the second from DJ. So I decided to leave at 1:00 instead of 2:00. I mean what's an hour right? Plus I had that damn patch on my eye and it was really hard to work and play on the internet. Well I started feeling guilty so instead I stayed until the allotted time and left at 2:00. By leaving at one I would have cheated my employer out of an hours wage. Not that it mattered I suppose as all I did most of the day was play on the internet anyway.
Then later in the evening DJ's mother invited us to go out to Buffalo Wild Wings for dinner with them. I love BWW, it's one of my favs. We had 2 $5.00 gift certificates from a prior visit that was not too pleasant and the manager complimented us with those gift certificates. We had also received a $50 gift card for BWW from DJ's grandmother that we still had $3.95 left to use, with the $20 we had in our pockets we felt assured that $33.95 would be sufficent. We ate and drank and then paid our bill with the $20.00 bill and all the certificates. The waiter returned and told us that our gift card and certificates were sufficent for our bill and returned our $20 bill. Now our bill was $28.45, the certificates only added up to $13.95. He then told us that we still had $1.95 on the gift card. How could this be? But oh well, free meal. Again guilt set in. We left the waiter the rest in a tip. He was good. And cute too.
Then we invited DJ's sister and a couple of her friends to our place to help finish up all the liquor from New Year's Eve (that's really sad...left over liquor) On the way we decided to stop by our favorite store (Target) and buy that new DVD game called "Scene It" to play with our guests for the evening. So we ran to the ATM at Target and I tried to put our card in. It would not go, but the screen asked..."Would you like another transaction?" I was like huh? I didn't even put my card in. I then realized that someone must have left their ATM in the machine and did not cancel their last action. Meaning if I hit the NO on the screen I could have withdrawn money from the card that was in the machine, saved us quite a few bucks and even been able to buy a new pair of jeans or something. I mean they were the dumbass to leave their ATM card still in the machine right? But, no I didn't. I hit the button to complete the prior asshole's transaction, found a piece of paper and pen and wrote a note to the bank with the card telling them that the user left the card in the machine and placed the card with the note on the bank counter next to the ATM. Went back to the ATM and used my own card and withdrew my own hard earned cash.
Then today my eldest son J1 called and said he was coming over to repay the $150 loan that I gave him at Christmas. I was like, "Son, that wasn't a loan that was your christmas gift. You don't have to repay me." Again, I know honest. I could have used that $150.
So I feel better for being honest, but now I want my damn reward. Come on, something good should come of my honesty don't you think? What goes around comes around, right?
I'm still waiting.
Hello God. Honest man here awaiting his reward.
Yep, still waiting.
Okay, never mind. Just keep track okay God? That's three for me.
Saturday, January 08, 2005
Ahoy, Mate
Pirate talk, that's what I'm using these days if you want to know. "Shiver me timbers..." The reason for my strange vocabulary of late is due to the fact that I have a patch over my left eye. Yep, a patch. Now all I need is the parrot on my shoulder.
On Wednesday I began experiencing some minor pain in my eyes. I assumed it was strain or sinus, so I ignored it. Thursday while at the Drive thru waiting for lunch I got a searing pain in my left eye and then everything went a little dim and blurry. I sat there for a few minutes after getting my #2 with cheese, and a coke and my sight finally returned, but was still somewhat unfocused. So off to the doctor I went as I was of course thinking my MS was acting up again and I would be blind by the end of the year. (I'm really not an alarmist, Suffer from hypochondria? Well, maybe). The doctor assured me that It was not my MS, but just severe eye strain. He gave me some drops and said if it wasn't better in a few days to come back. Well, by Friday it was worse. I was really having a hard time seeing and focusing so right back to the clinic I went. This time they actually called in an eye doctor to look at it. And it was not eye strain, but apparently a tear on my cornea. How did I tear my cornea? Who knows, but it's tore. So more drops into my eye and a patch that I have to wear for the entire weekend. But that's better than loosing my eyesight. So until then "me matey's I'll be off looking fer treasure..."
On another note in the NEWS World... Today the King of rock and Roll turns 70. Elvis at 70; could you imagine that hunk of burning love? So wherever you may be Elvis Aaron Presley, Happy Birthday.
And if you haven't already heard, Brad Pitt and Jennifer Aniston have seperated. It's official they both claim that they atill have great love and admiration for one another, but they are currently seperated. Nothing being said about divorce, but I'm sure it will come soon enough.
Inspiration for the Special Olympics, Rosemary Kennedy died.
On Wednesday I began experiencing some minor pain in my eyes. I assumed it was strain or sinus, so I ignored it. Thursday while at the Drive thru waiting for lunch I got a searing pain in my left eye and then everything went a little dim and blurry. I sat there for a few minutes after getting my #2 with cheese, and a coke and my sight finally returned, but was still somewhat unfocused. So off to the doctor I went as I was of course thinking my MS was acting up again and I would be blind by the end of the year. (I'm really not an alarmist, Suffer from hypochondria? Well, maybe). The doctor assured me that It was not my MS, but just severe eye strain. He gave me some drops and said if it wasn't better in a few days to come back. Well, by Friday it was worse. I was really having a hard time seeing and focusing so right back to the clinic I went. This time they actually called in an eye doctor to look at it. And it was not eye strain, but apparently a tear on my cornea. How did I tear my cornea? Who knows, but it's tore. So more drops into my eye and a patch that I have to wear for the entire weekend. But that's better than loosing my eyesight. So until then "me matey's I'll be off looking fer treasure..."
On another note in the NEWS World... Today the King of rock and Roll turns 70. Elvis at 70; could you imagine that hunk of burning love? So wherever you may be Elvis Aaron Presley, Happy Birthday.
And if you haven't already heard, Brad Pitt and Jennifer Aniston have seperated. It's official they both claim that they atill have great love and admiration for one another, but they are currently seperated. Nothing being said about divorce, but I'm sure it will come soon enough.
Inspiration for the Special Olympics, Rosemary Kennedy died.
Wednesday, January 05, 2005
10 Years, Where are We Now?
I just realized today while at work that 2005 will be my 10th Anniversary since I came out. Ten years! WOW, where did it go? A lot has happened in the past ten years that is for sure. Some things I prefer to forget (the whole mattress thing) and others I could never forget (like my commitment service to DJ the and trips to Atlanta, Savannah, Chicago, Indy and Florida ).
As I thought about the past ten years I also thought about the people that I have known in these past ten years. Some are gone, like Trace who died after his battle with HIV for 15 years. Some are still around, like a bad penny they keep popping up! And as some of the events of the past ten years, there are people I would like to forget ( the one night stand that I threw up all over after we had sex...) and some that will always be there, DJ, Veruca and Silver.
This picture shows some of those people. This is not a 10 year old picture, but a picture taken New Years Eve 1998. There is Veruca back row center. He and I came out together, and soon we were sleeping together. Veruca and I have been through it all. coming out to family, sharing our first place together as a gay couple, hitting the gay scene in Cincinnati. You name it we did it together. But, I learnt that friends are one thing, lovers are another. Even though our relationship has changed over the past ten years we still are close and he is one of my dearest friends.
Then there is Silver Fox (to the left of Veruca in the pic). At first he and I did not see things quite the same way...well maybe we did. We both were in love with Veruca. That caused for some intense moments. But over the past ten years he and I are closer than ever and I love him dearly. We've been through a lot together as well and I cherish his friendship.
Our group of friends was quite diverse in those days and the one who seemed to know everyone and everything was our very own Nathan Lane, the Queen of our group (he's the one front and center with the mustache in the pic) He introduced Veruca and I to all the gay bars and the gay men in the city. Even the ones to be-friend and the ones to stay away from. He was the one that actually introduced us to Silver. Talk about drama though!! It seemed to follow him, or maybe he just made it himself. Never a dull moment with him around that was for sure. Last I heard he adopted his nephew and moved to Key West and has recently moved back to Cincy.
We also had our very own "gay" Dr. Phil. (center row, first on the left) He had an opinion on everything and was always willing to share it whether we wanted it or not. Many times very good avice, but we seldomed listen to it. Maybe if I had I could have saved myself from a lot of the pain and agony I brought upon myself. He was also very active in the gay community, volunteering at the AIDS Center and working to make sure that all the gay community was registered and voted. The first time I went to the clinic to be tested for HIV it was with him. we also roomed together for awhile, but since then I've not seen him. Last I heard he was venturing into Real Estate and dungeons.
Then there were others, I call bit players like the beautiful blonde female, she had the greatest set of breasts on any woman I'd met up to that point! She also had that quick sarcastic bitchy humor that would cut a man in half if need be. My first real experience with a" fag hag". Our first Halloween party, she and I came as Adam and Eve. That was a treat!!
Then there was the little boy and his daddy boyfriend. He is the cute little latino looking thing standing next to Veruca. He was about 19 or 20 and his boyfriend (not pictured) was about 50 and married...to a woman. (Now you know the reason why he wasn't pictured). They dated for about another year after that party and daddy found someone younger. Last I heard he had some 19 year old he brought over here from the middle east. As for the little boy he is doing well in Tennessee. Moved away and finished school and has a real boyfriend from what I've heard.
Then there was me...(center row 2nd from the left) Fresh in the gay community and wanting to make up for lost time. I mean most of our friends had been out since childhood! I was 35 (old by gay standards) and just coming out of the closet. there was so much to do (and so many to do!) I was a mess!! I went through that "queeny" phase, you know where you think you have to be like all the stereotypical queers that you've heard about or seen on TV. I was dubbed "Jack" as in Will & Grace, for a long time because of that. It was also before the gray settled in (thanks to clariol) and I was still so vain I thought everyone was talking about me and before I met DJ. I was looking for the perfect man and it took me a long time (5 years) but I finally found him. It's true what they say too, when you stop looking so hard you'll find the one. That was what happened to me. When I settled on the fact that I was destined to remain single and I quit worrying about finding a boyfriend, I met DJ.
Yeah, a lot has happened in the last ten years. A lot of fun, a lot of tears, a lot of sex(both good and bad) and many people have crossed my path. I have no regrets. It's been a good first decade of being "OUT" and I would not have changed a thing. So Happy Anniversary to ME!! I can't wait to see what the next ten years brings!
As I thought about the past ten years I also thought about the people that I have known in these past ten years. Some are gone, like Trace who died after his battle with HIV for 15 years. Some are still around, like a bad penny they keep popping up! And as some of the events of the past ten years, there are people I would like to forget ( the one night stand that I threw up all over after we had sex...) and some that will always be there, DJ, Veruca and Silver.
This picture shows some of those people. This is not a 10 year old picture, but a picture taken New Years Eve 1998. There is Veruca back row center. He and I came out together, and soon we were sleeping together. Veruca and I have been through it all. coming out to family, sharing our first place together as a gay couple, hitting the gay scene in Cincinnati. You name it we did it together. But, I learnt that friends are one thing, lovers are another. Even though our relationship has changed over the past ten years we still are close and he is one of my dearest friends.
Then there is Silver Fox (to the left of Veruca in the pic). At first he and I did not see things quite the same way...well maybe we did. We both were in love with Veruca. That caused for some intense moments. But over the past ten years he and I are closer than ever and I love him dearly. We've been through a lot together as well and I cherish his friendship.
Our group of friends was quite diverse in those days and the one who seemed to know everyone and everything was our very own Nathan Lane, the Queen of our group (he's the one front and center with the mustache in the pic) He introduced Veruca and I to all the gay bars and the gay men in the city. Even the ones to be-friend and the ones to stay away from. He was the one that actually introduced us to Silver. Talk about drama though!! It seemed to follow him, or maybe he just made it himself. Never a dull moment with him around that was for sure. Last I heard he adopted his nephew and moved to Key West and has recently moved back to Cincy.
We also had our very own "gay" Dr. Phil. (center row, first on the left) He had an opinion on everything and was always willing to share it whether we wanted it or not. Many times very good avice, but we seldomed listen to it. Maybe if I had I could have saved myself from a lot of the pain and agony I brought upon myself. He was also very active in the gay community, volunteering at the AIDS Center and working to make sure that all the gay community was registered and voted. The first time I went to the clinic to be tested for HIV it was with him. we also roomed together for awhile, but since then I've not seen him. Last I heard he was venturing into Real Estate and dungeons.
Then there were others, I call bit players like the beautiful blonde female, she had the greatest set of breasts on any woman I'd met up to that point! She also had that quick sarcastic bitchy humor that would cut a man in half if need be. My first real experience with a" fag hag". Our first Halloween party, she and I came as Adam and Eve. That was a treat!!
Then there was the little boy and his daddy boyfriend. He is the cute little latino looking thing standing next to Veruca. He was about 19 or 20 and his boyfriend (not pictured) was about 50 and married...to a woman. (Now you know the reason why he wasn't pictured). They dated for about another year after that party and daddy found someone younger. Last I heard he had some 19 year old he brought over here from the middle east. As for the little boy he is doing well in Tennessee. Moved away and finished school and has a real boyfriend from what I've heard.
Then there was me...(center row 2nd from the left) Fresh in the gay community and wanting to make up for lost time. I mean most of our friends had been out since childhood! I was 35 (old by gay standards) and just coming out of the closet. there was so much to do (and so many to do!) I was a mess!! I went through that "queeny" phase, you know where you think you have to be like all the stereotypical queers that you've heard about or seen on TV. I was dubbed "Jack" as in Will & Grace, for a long time because of that. It was also before the gray settled in (thanks to clariol) and I was still so vain I thought everyone was talking about me and before I met DJ. I was looking for the perfect man and it took me a long time (5 years) but I finally found him. It's true what they say too, when you stop looking so hard you'll find the one. That was what happened to me. When I settled on the fact that I was destined to remain single and I quit worrying about finding a boyfriend, I met DJ.
Yeah, a lot has happened in the last ten years. A lot of fun, a lot of tears, a lot of sex(both good and bad) and many people have crossed my path. I have no regrets. It's been a good first decade of being "OUT" and I would not have changed a thing. So Happy Anniversary to ME!! I can't wait to see what the next ten years brings!
Tuesday, January 04, 2005
Blog of the Month
Since starting my own blog about a year ago (started with mblog who closed their service and lost my data) I've run into via the internet quite a few interesting blog brothers and sisters. I've even tried to get others to start their own blog such as my cousin out in California who started one, stopped it, started again, and quit blogging yet again. My friend Drew also started a blog, but he hasn't posted since early December. I currently have over 35 blog addresses on my favorite list. Some of which I read daily and others I read at least once a week. It is a great way to keep up on the current news events and also there are always tons of HOT GUYS! So I thought I would devote one post a month to some of my favorites.
The Blog of the month for January is one of my absolute favorites.
AJAX IN THE CITY
I read him every day and he always brings a smile and sometimes more. I've been devoted to reading him now for almost a year and the other day I finally decided to check out his photos. And if I can steal one of his catch phrases...DAYUM!!
He is funny, witty and so in touch with where I am. It is amazing how on some days I will have something on my mind at work, come home read his blog and he is writing about the very same thing. He also refers to some of the hottest guys in cyberspace, and I must admit after seeing his pictures he is one of them!! I love his pointless facts, they are truly honest and fun. So for the Blog of the Month of January...I say hat's off to one of the best blog authors out there. Thanks Nicky for sharing your humor, wit, intelligence, your daily take on life and tell your BF he is one lucky guy to have you!!
The Blog of the month for January is one of my absolute favorites.
AJAX IN THE CITY
I read him every day and he always brings a smile and sometimes more. I've been devoted to reading him now for almost a year and the other day I finally decided to check out his photos. And if I can steal one of his catch phrases...DAYUM!!
He is funny, witty and so in touch with where I am. It is amazing how on some days I will have something on my mind at work, come home read his blog and he is writing about the very same thing. He also refers to some of the hottest guys in cyberspace, and I must admit after seeing his pictures he is one of them!! I love his pointless facts, they are truly honest and fun. So for the Blog of the Month of January...I say hat's off to one of the best blog authors out there. Thanks Nicky for sharing your humor, wit, intelligence, your daily take on life and tell your BF he is one lucky guy to have you!!
Monday, January 03, 2005
Back to Basics
Back at work after a three day Holiday and the snowstorm we had right before Christmas. Everything has melted and no problems getting into work, Damn! It's the first of the month so things are hectic here. But still time to blog. Last night DJ and I ventured into my recent past. We played D&D. Remember Dungeons & Dragons? Well a few years ago I was dating a guy named Tracy that was as addicted to D&D as I am currently addicted to SIMS. After he and I went our seperate ways I put away my D&D dice and forgot about it. While going through some boxes, DJ stumbled across the dice and asked me about them. He had never played D&D, but he is a huge fan of Fantasy Novels (Robert Jordan, etc.) so I knew he'd love D&D. I explained the basics and we began creating a charecter. He was enthralled with it, and I was enjoying seeing us being able to do something we both like together. So tomorrow we are heading to Barnes & Nobles to get the actual game and Rulebook. That is what is important in relationships, communication and mutual interest. Not that DJ and I have been having any problems, for we haven't, but me sitting for hours on the computer playing SIMS and he in the bedroom reading his fantasy novels was becoming a little old. So now we can play D&D and then play SIMS and read our fantasy novels. Back to the basics, yep it's fun.
Oh and by the way for those of you that asked about my son and his girlfriend regarding this posting...she's not.
Oh and by the way for those of you that asked about my son and his girlfriend regarding this posting...she's not.
Saturday, January 01, 2005
Welcome 2005
Welcome 2005!!
Welcome to the opportunity to make some changes and adjustments. Why do we seem to always do that when a New year begins? There is not a lot of things that I really want to change other than the fact that I need to get off my ass a little more often and get out into the world again! Well that and quit smoking, get a real job and have sex at least four times a week. Then there is that whole SIMS addiction thing I have. I really need to see someone about that. But I think I'll start with one thing at a time. So I am going to log off the computer and move my ass into the living room and watch one of our new DVD's we got for Christmas. It is Episode IV of Star Wars, A New Hope. Isn't that Ironic?
Welcome to the opportunity to make some changes and adjustments. Why do we seem to always do that when a New year begins? There is not a lot of things that I really want to change other than the fact that I need to get off my ass a little more often and get out into the world again! Well that and quit smoking, get a real job and have sex at least four times a week. Then there is that whole SIMS addiction thing I have. I really need to see someone about that. But I think I'll start with one thing at a time. So I am going to log off the computer and move my ass into the living room and watch one of our new DVD's we got for Christmas. It is Episode IV of Star Wars, A New Hope. Isn't that Ironic?
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